, people denote physical or sexual coercion; though this is a reasonable definition, domestic violence is a significantly wider term that requires clarification.
Domestic violence is a narrower term for domestic abuse – a behavior pattern which implies controlling or dominating one person who is an intimate relationship, whether it be a partner, children, or relatives (Helpguide).
Now, I tell my story without (most of) the shame; I believe it's important to share it to show others that someone can come through this and survive. It may escalate to a kick or a slap, with more apologies and promises that it will never happen again.
By the time I realized that I was in a bad relationship, I had invested so much of myself and my self-esteem had been chipped away so drastically, I was terrified to be alone. And teach your children about healthy relationships — you owe it to them to get help if you are in a destructive relationship yourself.
The next morning, he was sober again and rushed to apologize, holding me in his arms while I cried. The first time he kicked me, I was walking down the stairs to our apartment, and he told me it was my fault. Soon, I started taking all the blame for his rages, walking on eggshells every moment we were together.
Over the course of several years, I had learned to see myself through his eyes: unattractive, unlovable, and stupid.
It may have physical, emotional, sexual, and economic aspects, sometimes combining several of them simultaneously.
The main purpose of such control is to completely suppress the partner’s will, and manipulate them.
"Please don't tell me it's like that, Kristin," he said quietly. It didn't start like this when I met my live-in boyfriend six years earlier. I was already in love with him by the first time he called me a worthless piece of s*** in an alcohol-infused fury; I was in shock.
I thought about leaving him that night, but I was frozen with indecision. And my mind had started to believe what he said about me.